Financial Intimacy

Teaching Financial Education is not working. The government and other entities are spending tons of money trying to 'teach' money; it does not work that way.

Showing someone HOW to budget is one thing, getting them to understand the underlying reasons WHY they have so much debt is very different.

Financial Literacy as it being taught today, skims the surface of debt advice, how to get out of debt, how to manage your money. What people, and especially women, need to do is dig DEEPER into the reasons WHY; Which for all of you who understand my program, is the starting place to identify the monsters in your 'closet'; the people who were toxic in your childhood. Putting a name and a face to those protagonists, gives you tools so you can then heal, and THEN later learn budgeting.

Financial Intimacy, as I call it, is really being connected your real inner truths about the shame you might be feeling, the anger you might be carrying around, the fears that hold onto about money.

Money is just a metaphor. It's really about your RELATIONSHIP to.........whatever, you fill in the blank; could be your spouse, child, brother, boss; it's a person first and then the material world second. So, if you have problems with food...eating too much or too little,for example, your problem originates with a primary relationship with a person in your past.
Examining your early childhood, and understanding the family dynamics is the key to unlocking those secrets.

I have a client who's husband one day turned to her and said: "If you really loved me, you would ____________(I forgot the request)"
She was shocked that he connected love with a request to do something for him.
We talked about it later,and I told her...: "kids are copycats...they repeat everything they hear". Four days went by,and she then heard her Mother-in-law say the exact thing to her 10 year old grandson......BINGO ! That's where her husband learned such an absurd comment. Is no wonder that how learned how to communicate started at birth.

But, now as an adult, someone can break that code of forgotten comments and move forth to a more authentic and intimate way of not only communicating but of a deeper understanding of how different parts of their interactions as children impacted their sense of self, which totally controlled their self-esteem.

And, you are asking..how does this relate to finances?

Your self-esteem is the engine for all of your relationships, whether they are people, pets, pizza, or pesos...heal your self-esteem and the money will follow.