The Codebook...

So, how do we find the 'codebook ' ?

Look in the mirror, you already have it....inside of yourself.

How do you access it ? You are asking,...well, a wise person once said:
"One cannot see themselves in running water"

When we are fearful,angry,anxious, we are not in the moment; we have been transported back in time to a feeling that has been triggered, and we sit in that canoe, in that running river...allowing our imagination to create havoc with the "what-if's", taking us down stream in a mild hysteria.

The things we need to do are: STAY IN THE CANOE and BREATHE DEEPLY. Remind ourselves that we are adults now and we have adult-like skills to cope, AND, that we will find the solution, but we need to calm down and find compassion for ourselves.
Finding the compassion requires PATIENCE.
These are primary tools to decipher the codebook.

When you are calm, your creative side will appear and offer suggestions. After all, the side of your brain that created the problem is not the same side of the brain that will solve it. (Einstein) Your authentic side has the answers.

Now that you are an adult, you get the chance to back to your young childhood and really nurture your inner 4 year-old in a way that she never was attended to. This is not easy, this is not fast, BUT, it is the only way to heal. If you can't ground your inner 4 year-old, she will forever be acting out, searching for financial stress relief but unable to connect the dots. Her deep seated fear of ending up alone and broke will underlie all of her actions.

She needs help, and you are the only one who can do it now. Winning the lottery just disguises the deep pain and reinforces the sense of isolation.

Move through the day with compassion for your past and patience for your future.