In talking to a client yesterday and I took her down the path of her mother's behavior when she was very young. By now with my client, her mother's narcissism has been identified many times over as the source of where her life split in two. But, she cannot let go .
I was able to show her that it was not that her mother did not love her, because she did; all mothers love their children. BUT WHO CAME FIRST was the problem; Mother's needs came first, her daughters needs came second.
Being able to separate narcissism from love gave my client the space to have compassion for the past and patience for the future.
We all have to remember: Our parents were children in adult bodies. They were trapped and although they APPEARED to be grown-up, they too were 5 yrs old...forever.
We have a chance to shift and now heal, so that we do not continue to live with so much fear and anger.
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